Disclaimer: Collaborative post
Dating in the 21st century can be cryptic, confusing and a bit overwhelming for many people. I have been speaking to local people who are currently dating in their older life, and I wanted to get to the bottom of why some people prefer to be in a Subs and Doms relationship and why they find this more appealing.
I spoke to a man in his late 60s about why he has chosen to go down the subs and Doms dating route, and what it means for his safety, his family and his happiness. Here’s what he had to say:
“I chose to go down the route of being a submissive about 10 years ago now. Dating wasn’t going too well for me, and I wanted to spice up my love life a little bit. I was feeling lost, alone and very confused about what I wanted out of life and another relationship. I had previously been married for 15 years, and when that ended in a rather nasty divorce, I knew that I had to let my hair down and have a bit of fun.
“I met Jules on a dating app, and had already decided that I wanted to be a sub to somebody. I didn’t want to be labelled a lover, boyfriend, partner or friend any longer. The word submissive was exactly what I wanted from my next relationship. Jules labelled herself a ‘Dominatrix’ and I was thirsty for her attention, her pain and her sexual torture. From our very first meeting I felt alive again. I felt driven, sexually excited and extremely happy with my life choice. Jules made sure I was 100% before we met up, especially as she was experienced and had been in a sub and Dom relationship most of her life. I agreed I was ready, and we even signed a clause so we knew one another’s boundaries. And well, the rest is history…
“Me and Jules have been in this agreement since 2016. We have a very normal relationship when it doesn’t involve sex, and we have a great time socialising with friends and family too. My family adore Jules and understand that we are in an agreement with one another and not a stereotypical relationship. I have never been happier and can’t recommend it enough for anyone who has been through a lot in life, and just wants to feel alive again”.
I also spoke to a 23 year old man on his mistress dating experience, and why he decided to go down a different route whilst at University:
“I decided to seek a mistress when I was 20 years old, and it was partly because I was bored of the young girls at University and felt like I needed somebody a bit more wiser. I found Hanna online and we immediately hit it off talking about what we were both interested in, our hobbies and what turned us both on. I met Hanna for the first time that same day, and I was smitten as soon as our eyes met. She was exactly what I had been looking for and I knew that my days of dating were over for the foreseeable future. The mistress relationship we have is empowering, very sexually driven and has helped us to bond with one another on such a different level. She makes me feel like I never want to leave her side, and that is what excites me the most. I can’t imagine not having Hanna as my mistress.”
Both these guys wanted the same type of relationship, but one is older and the other a lot younger, one has done the whole settle down and get married relationship, and the other has not even had a relationship. So I think that dating in the 21st century is so open to explore, and I think as long as you know what you want, who you are meeting and ensure you are doing things safely then go for it. The sky is your limit after all.
Happy fishing!
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